I recently gave my mom a manuscript to look over and was somewhat traumatized when she handed it back full of sticky notes and strike-throughs.
Yes, part of me (okay a lot me) expected the woman who had once sewn me a quilt lined with affirmations would tell me the whole thing was perfect just the way it was. Needless to say, several glasses of wine and a lot of chocolate was soon consumed.
Next time I give my mom or anyone a copy of my work, I am going to remind myself of Tim Robbins admission.
Robbins says he always “Takes [criticisms of his writing] personally” and asks readers to “start with ‘It’s a masterpiece,’ and then tell [him]what [they] think could be changed. (source)”
In other words, getting feedback on your writing can be hard, even for the most accomplished writer. And yes, even from your mother (maybe especially from her). But hey, I’m sure glad I did. Who knew that old seamstress could come up with so many wicked plot changes?
How very true. Interesting to know that someone as accomplished as Tim Robbins finds critique just as nerve-wracking as the rest of us. 🙂
No kidding 🙂 Makes me feel a lot more comfortable with my own writer insecurities, that for sure.
It’s a good point you’re making. A little positive feedback to soften the blow of critique shouldn’t be recommended it should be required. Write on!
So true! And wine. Lots of wine.